I feel like everyone has strong opinions about weddings, wedding etiquette, and just generally everything wedding-related. So when Reddit user u/fisch09 and @HashtagRoundu asked what they wished everyone would stop doing at weddings, people had some answers readdddy!
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Here’s what people — from what the brides, grooms, and more — should stop doing:
1.“Clinking silverware on glasses to get the couple to kiss.”
—u/BlueLilahLarry
2.“Ugh, the tired, boring lame best man and maid of honor speeches. ‘We’ve known each other since grade school when we were playing cars/barbies. Now this great person has come to take you away from me. But I can see from how you look at each other, this is meant to be.’ Even worse is when they try to insert some inside joke that only they’ll understand in a room fucking full of people there to celebrate together.”
—u/1900grs
3.“The cool/cute/creative/generally unusual first dance. It’s lame ass. No one but the couple is entertained by it.”
—deleted
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4.“Playing Beyoncé’s ‘Single Ladies’ when it’s time for the bouquet toss. Cliché.”
—deleted
5.“The chicken dance at weddings.”
—u/pickledpunk21
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6.“A proposal. I’ve heard about people proposing at other people’s wedding ceremonies or receptions. If you don’t have permission from the bride/groom, DON’T DO IT because it’s THEIR day, not yours.”
—Neurotic workaholic
7.“Over-drinking. Unfortunately, I’ve seen too many mass brawls at the end because of drinking and drama.”
—nollaig kelly
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8th.“Choreographed, cutesy skits, flash mobs, dance routines, etc. I’d nope out of wedding party that wanted that from me. And they’re boring to watch as a guest, and usually excruciating.”
—baddaughter
9.“When the mother of the groom is drunk and makes a toast just to insult the bride.”
—sheenadawnn
10“People who call out during the speeches. Drives me bonkers! If you were that funny, they would have asked you to speak. They clearly didn’t, so shut your yap!”
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—jillians459eaed80
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11.“Announcing your pregnancy at someone ELSE’s wedding. It’s not your moment!”
—zeroeffs
12.“Don’t serve food that’s on a buffet that isn’t labeled! Almost ate something that I was allergic to at a wedding because it wasn’t labeled and the food was served in a room that was dimly lit.”
—gracelee32
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13.“Don’t bring your awful kids when you have been specifically asked not to or they invite says no children.”
—rickm16
14“Don’t come over and take your own pics while the designated photographer is doing the staged shots. I have too many pics of my wedding party all looking in different directions. Once my photographer realized what was going on he asked everyone not getting their pictures by him taken to leave.”
—paulau4fbdfb725
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16“Stop the smashing of the cake in each other’s faces. JUST. STOP. IT.”
—c49a679543
17“Don’t be an ass to the waitstaff/bartender. Especially don’t yell at them because the bar isn’t serving the ‘right’ type of alcohol. If you have an issue with that, talk to the bride and groom. Sincerely, A Former Events Server.”
—emma1515
And lastly:
18“Someone shouldn’t wear white if you do not ask them first.”
—brownadisyn
What do YOU ​​think? Do you agree? Disagree? Did they miss any? Let me know in the comments below!
Responses edited for length/clarity/context.